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SINGLE is a lifestyle— and some of our favorite female power players are spinsters too. To be single in a society that insists on pairs is a powerful choice that transcends societal norms and embraces the essence of peace, comfort, independence, and unbridled happiness. Cheers to all of the spinsters out there living their very best lives! 💋
WHOOPI GOLDBERG
"Look, people expect you to have a boyfriend," Goldberg told the New York Times, after she was asked about the role she felt she had played within her marriages. "They expect you to get married. So I kept trying to do that, but I didn’t want to share information with somebody else. I didn’t want anybody asking me why I was doing what I was doing, or to have to make the other person feel better. But if you’re in a relationship, you have to do those things, and it took me a while to figure out that I didn’t want to."
"I'd be thinking, why don’t I feel the thing that I’m supposed to?" Goldberg continued in the Times interview. "Then one day I thought: I don’t have to do this. I don’t have to conform. I tried marriage, and it wasn’t for me. You can’t be in a marriage because everybody’s expecting you to."
Goldberg's comments echoed those she made previously, also to the New York Times, in 2016. "I’m much happier on my own," she said. "I can spend as much time with somebody as I want to spend, but I’m not looking to be with somebody forever or live with someone. I don’t want somebody in my house.”
All of this makes complete sense, Whoopi’s most succinct SP1NSTER™ quote:
"I don't want somebody in my house."
TRACEE ELLIS ROSS
"In my wonderful and robust experience of being single, I have learned to have a productive relationship with loneliness and an intensely juicy relationship with my joyful solitude — I really enjoy my company.
This is an absolutely beautiful and empowering sentiment from our favorite red lipped, fashion heroine, hair icon, lifestyle guru and SP1NSTER™. We present our favorite quote:
“MY LIFE IS MINE."
LINDA EVANGELISTA
“Not interested” in dating, Linda Evangelista shared her thoughts on finding romance again in a new interview with The Sunday Times. “I don't want to sleep with anybody anymore,” Evangelista told the outlet. “I don't want to hear somebody breathing.” As told by People Magazine.
“I DON’T WANT TO HEAR SOMEONE BREATHING.”
CHER
“MOM, I AM A RICH MAN.”
“A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that still doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones. The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing—and then marry him.”
1996 interview for Dateline NBC, Jane Pauley Cher tells the story of her mother asking her to "settle down and marry a rich man," and like the OG SP1NSTER™ that she is.” Cher replies,
GRACE JONES
“One boyfriend told me that I loved myself too much. I thought, Well, you can love a boyfriend too much, but you can’t love yourself too much. Sometimes you have to love yourself to keep yourself whole.” ― I’ll Never Write My Memoirs
“you have to love yourself to keep yourself whole.”
EaRTHA KITT
When legendary SP1NSTER™, Eartha Kitt was asked if she would compromise for a relationship she gave an address for the ages. Thought provoking and empowering, she would not sacrifice herself for a relationship. Her stance was rooted in self love, self preservation and her own desires.
“A relationship is a relationship that has to be earned. Not to be compromised for. And that love relationship certainly is fantastic. I think they are wonderful, I think they are great. There’s nothing in the world more beautiful than falling in love. But falling in love for the right reason. Falling in love for the right purpose. Falling in love. Falling in love. When you fall in love… What is there to compromise about?
“It’s all about falling in love with yourself…
“…and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.
MONICA Bellucci
The single woman is a free woman, and being single does not mean being alone - it means being free to have a relationship or not. This can be scary, but it's also very interesting.
“The single woman is a free woman.”
MARTHA STEWART
“There shouldn't be any limits. Set your limits higher than you think. Embrace the past but absolutely look towards the future and reimagine what you can do," Stewart says.
"I don't act my age and I don't want to even think about my age," she explains. "Most of my friends are much younger than I am and that's not because I choose them. They just are my friends because we have the same interests."
On the 4th hour of NBC’s Today Show, when asked if she’s looking for a boyfriend, our fave replied,
“I have a nice life without having to get up and make coffee for somebody else.”
NAOMI CAMPBELL
“Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely…
“I don’t have time to be bored, and I don’t have time to be lonely.”
JENNIFER ANISTON
“we are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child…
…We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. Let’s make that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete.
“We get to determine our own ‘happily ever after’ for ourselves.”
DEMI MOORE
“not to sound cliché, but it’s really a process of learning to love yourself,”…
“I think it’s a process of, you know, not to sound cliché, but it’s really a process of learning to love yourself,” Moore shared with Yahoo news.
“Accepting who you are just as you are. For me, I had changed myself so many times over and over to fit what I thought somebody else wanted. It’s that idea that …
we’re kind of conditioned to work towards being desired, but we’re not supposed to have desires of our own.”
Ava DuVernay
“…I would prefer is that I'm the poster child for living my life on my terms."
"People are like, 'You're the poster child for being single.' And I was like, 'Great.' But what I would prefer is that l'm the poster child for living my life on my terms. And that there's a version of that for everyone."