RSVP, +NONE
I am fortunate to have been invited to many parties and sometimes those parties did not include a plus one and sometimes I wasn’t granted a plus one. On many occasions I have had to go it alone. As unsettling as it may feel to enter a space without your RSVP’ing solo to an event can sometimes feel intimidating, but it's a common and perfectly acceptable choice. Here are some tips to help you RSVP solo without feeling insecure:
Own Your Decision: Embrace the fact that you're choosing to attend solo. Confidence comes from within, so remind yourself that your company is valuable.
Focus on the Event: Concentrate on the purpose of the event rather than your solo attendance. Whether it's a wedding, party, or gathering, your presence is an opportunity to enjoy the occasion.
Prepare Conversation Starters: Have a few topics in mind to initiate conversations. This can help ease any social anxiety and make it easier to connect with others. Keep it light and offer genuine compliments.
Arrive Early: Arriving early allows you to get comfortable with the environment before it gets crowded. It also gives you the chance to meet people as they arrive. Or arrive later and lose yourself in the crowd. Do whatever is going to make you most comfortable.
Be Approachable: Make eye contact, smile and use open body language. Being approachable can encourage others to strike up conversations with you.
Doing things by yourself can be FUN AND empowering. self-love and SELF-discovery cannot be understated.
Participate Actively: Engage in activities or discussions at the event. This can divert your focus from feeling insecure and help you enjoy the moment.
Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that not every social interaction will be perfect. It's okay to have moments of discomfort, but try to see them as opportunities for growth.
Use Social Media: If the event has a social media page or group, consider joining it. This can help you connect with others before the event and create a sense of familiarity.
Explore Mutual Interests: Look for people who share common interests with you. This can be a great starting point for conversations and building connections.
Positive Self-Talk: Practice positive self-talk and affirmations. Your presence is a present. Remind yourself of your strengths and that you are there to enjoy and experience the event on your own terms.
Remember that everyone attends events with different motivations, and many people appreciate meeting new individuals. Consider the possibility that people attending might just be as nervous as you. Embrace the opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and enjoy the experience.
When navigating solo events, consider your personal safety. Have a game plan and exit strategy for the night. Tell a friend or family members know your whereabouts. Keep your phone charged and be clear of your surroundings. Have a fabulous time!