D1VORCE FOR SOME, IT’S HER HAPPY PLACE

Nicole Kidman experiences what can only be described as rapture after finalizing her 2001 divorce from Tom Cruise. Image Credit: Unknown

In the US, over 70% of divorces are initiated by women, in addition, over 50% of divorced wives never want to remarry.  Divorce is a life-altering experience that can evoke a myriad of emotions, with men and women navigating the aftermath with separate yet distinctive behaviors. A recent study highlights the difference in the emotional landscapes between women and men post-divorce, highlighting women generally have better emotional and longterm outcomes. 

During the divorce process, women overwhelmingly displayed greater emotional strength during and after divorce. A substantial majority of the women polled reported feeling liberated, relieved, and happy following a separation despite various challenges faced. This suggests women are more adaptable. The emotional turmoil associated with divorce highlights women's resilience and ability to embrace change. Women also tend to have more close friends where 15% of men say they have no close friendships at all. 

nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

Data shows men are prone to distract themselves in work and with new partners while women immerse themselves in more self-affirming activities. Research indicates men’s lack of emotional maturity is the underlying source of  downline-divorce and lower life satisfaction. More of this can be attributed to men’s reluctance to seek mental healthcare and emotional support. Men often delay processing their emotions and do so through blame, not addressing the root causes of the loss of their relationship, leading to prolonged emotional distress. The data finds that men who self reflect, employ contrition or accountability, open up, discuss their feelings, and seek assistance experience healthier post-divorce outcomes.

Divorced women prioritize spending time with friends, family and seek wellness and therapy. Personal growth and emotional well-being experiences are where divorcees recalibrate. Women also tend to have networks of friends and a better support system both to discuss any marital issues that support ease and often times positive encouragement  in transitioning back into single life. It’s also possible these friendships make divorce seem like a more plausible option – research shows  if a close friend gets divorced, people’s own chances of divorcing rise by 75%.

As the cultural perceptions about divorce continue to evolve, women are more inclined to embrace newfound freedom, openly express themselves, and pursue personal happiness.

A crucial factor contributing to women's post-divorce well-being is their ability to establish strong support networks. Women tend to surround themselves with friends and family who encourage personal growth and success. This support system becomes a cornerstone for navigating the challenges of post-divorce life, providing emotional assistance and fostering a sense of community. Post-divorce wellness is enhanced through community, self care and self discovery.