sex over sixty: the girls are single too!
If ABC’s The Golden Bachelor taught us anything, it’s that America is filled with vivacious, single women over 60. I must clearly state that I despise the concept of The Bachelor. It disgusts me to my core to see women competing with other women for the attention of a single man. This is my opinion, and not an attack on the members of Bachelor Nation . I understand that this show has been on for decades because people feel differently than I do. I am not judging - this is simply my opinion. This said, I was one of the 13.9 million (*total viewership) viewers who tuned in to watch premier of The Golden Bachelor.
Over 30,000 women applied to be on The Golden Bachelor. 22 single seniors made the cut with and age of the bachelorettes was 63 and the sexual energy was palpable in almost every episode. Society has conditioned us to believe that women over 30 are somehow withering and leaving their beauty prime. Women in their 40’s are “drying up” and now that all of our faves are in their 40’s it’s easy to see that we have been bamboozled by that narrative. The 90’s beauty icons are in their 50’s an they are gagging the girls with their beauty, body and life revelations. So we must consider that our sexuality and desires do not die at 60!
But I didn’t need to watch The Golden Bachelor to tell me that women over 60 are hot and spicy. My mother recently reached senior citizen status and one of the most exuberant, irrepressible and vigorous women that I know. Not only is my mother a 65 year old hottie, she’s got a gaggle of single, senior girlfriends who are divorced, widowed and empty nesters. These women have free time and they are dating. Women over 60 have experienced the trials and tribulations that life has thrown their way, they are and carefree, confident and ready to slip into their new version of life. So don’t call her grandma, she is out in these streets and she is wild in the sheets.
“When I was younger, I didn’t say what I need, but now I don’t give a sh*t. Please me—that’s it!” ANONyMOUS, OVER 60
As we continue to learn more about never-married, widowed or divorced women living full lives after 60 the fear instilled in us about unfulfilling single lives continues to diminish - there is room for fun at every phase of life. Research shows our lengthening lifespans, changing attitudes to marriage and divorce, and evolving cultural views are making later-life love and sex more common. Baby Boomers and the early Gen-x’ers are the first generation to live so long in such good health and to divorce in such great numbers in midlife. Increasingly, the widowed are happily re-partnering in their 50s and 60s resulting in millions of women enjoying the best sex of their lives.
A recent survey asked over 3000 women over 60 and nearly 75% responded that age has had no negative impact on the quality of their orgasms. 20% said orgasms that are more satisfying than ever before, and 57% said they have an orgasm with their partners always or almost always. Can we attribute this to the pace of the tryst because things are moving more slowly, perhaps there is patience and less pressure, maybe the risk of not becoming pregnant allows women to be less inhibited or knowing and understanding their bodies makes it easier to reach the pleasure peak. The survey also found that nearly 40% of women over 60 are in the mood as often as they were 10 years prior.
Talking about sex over sixty in some spaces is still considered taboo. If you can’t talk about it, there is probability that you might miss out on the experience. Let’s take advantage of or female friends and family of a certain age, learn from them if they are willing so that we too can have healthy and happy over sixty sex lives!