who’s giving “SINGLE ADVICE?”
In a world filled with advice on relationships, dating, and marriage, the unique experience of being a single woman often takes a back seat. The focus on finding a partner can sometimes overshadow the excitement, self-discovery and self-love that comes with single life. This leads to a thought-provoking question: “Where are the conversations that encourage happy and confident single woman without the emphasis on appealing to a man?”
While it's challenging to pinpoint the exact number of such articles, it's clear that the majority of available information tends to revolve around relationship-centric topics. Nevertheless, it's crucial to acknowledge and appreciate the distinct experience of being single and the importance of embracing one's independence. There is even a movie called “How to be Single.” The movie stars Dakota Johnson, Rebel Wilson, Leslie Mann and Allison Brie. The title is thought provoking but in the end we get the same tired rom-com ending, down to the reformed Jezebel being paired by the time the credits roll. The film was titled “How to be Single” and the answer must still be on the cutting room floor.
This leads to a thought-provoking question: “Where are the conversations that encourage happy and confident single woman without the emphasis on appealing to a man?”
Here is a story that will knock your socks off, a friend of mine was dating a man who worked on that exact film. My friend was trapped in a world of emotional chaos, single and trying desperately to get his attention and figure out her station in his life. After a night of wine and “will he or won’t he” contemplation we decided to take a walk. It was a warm Manhattan night and we found ourselves walking toward the direction of where the movie was shooting. We walked onto the block and then onto the set. As industry vets we knew how to blend into the night-shoot environment. Oh, the drama and and real life tears that ensued were less like a rom-com and more like a Greek tragedy! A story that could only be told as vividly onscreen. For now, I will keep her and his secret to protect all parties involved.
Being single isn't merely a transitional phase or a waiting period for the next romantic relationship. For some it is a fixed position. In a society that prioritizes undue importance on romantic partnerships, the journey of a single woman is a narrative that deserves exploration and celebration.
The concept of single advice is pretty much non existent beyond conventional narratives of finding a partner. It delves into the realms of self-care, self-empowerment, and building a fulfilling life on one's terms.
Self-Discovery: Being single allows individuals the time and space to explore their passions, interests, and values without the influence of a partner. Articles may focus on the importance of self-discovery as a means of fostering personal growth and building a strong sense of self. I deeply enjoy a walk in the park a happy hour or a vacation - even a staycation can teach you so much about yourself and your own power.
Building Confidence: Confidence is a cornerstone of a fulfilling single life. Advice articles may offer practical tips on boosting self-confidence, embracing one's uniqueness, and navigating societal expectations with grace and resilience. Ultimately, you have to dig deep for the confidence to wake up in the morning and live life on your terms - not the terms society, religion and patriarchy has fed to us. Being a happily, single woman is an act of rebellion!
Being single isn't merely a transitional phase or a waiting period for the next romantic relationship. For some it is a fixed position.
Embracing Independence: Outline the goals an desires you have for yourself. What do you truly desire? Is it good health, mental wellness, financial independence, advancing your career goals, or the freedom to make life decisions autonomously. These are all questions you should ask yourself as you embrace your independence. These are all questions that you have to answer wether you are in partnership or not.
Healthy Relationships with Others: Being single does not equate to isolation. The significance of maintaining healthy relationships with friends, family, and community, fostering a support system that goes beyond romantic connections. It’s unhealthy to think that a romantic relationship with complete you. Remember that all partnered people are not in relationships that are a constant state of bliss. More power to those who are! Many rely on their friends, family, colleagues and community for other sources of fulfillment. Healthy relationships with clear communication, lots of laughter, compassion, understand and honest boundaries.
Cultivating Joy: Happiness is not contingent upon a romantic partner. Finding joy and fulfillment in everyday life, whether through hobbies, travel, or personal achievements.
Being a happily, single woman is an act of rebellion!
As society continues to redefine traditional norms, the narrative around being a confident and content single woman becomes increasingly relevant. It is a journey of empowerment, resilience, and embracing the richness of life beyond the confines of a romantic relationship.